Tennessee Titans Father’s & Kids Experience

This Saturday, October 3rd the Tennessee Titans and All Pro Dad will host another Titans Father and Kids Experience!  Last year we had over 700 fathers and kids at the Titans practice facility to enjoy of day of fun, fellowship and memories.

I’m looking forward to speaking at the event again, and to see the impact every dad will make on the lives of their children.  Feel free to visit www.allprodad.com to register your family for the event.

Enjoy the video of last year’s experience!

Meeting w/U.S. Senator and more!

It was another productive week with media interviews and meetings this week.  I am excited to let you know that i met with U.S. Senator Harper yesterday, as well as founder of www.realsports.org, Barbara Murrell to discuss a possible partnership to provide young athletes the necessary life skills for success both on and off the field.

It is exciting to see how God is bringing the right people across my path to help impact people across the nation.  I am now developing the strategic plan to work with other current and former NFL players to allow us a forum to engage and impact men, families and youth everywhere!

Please keep us in your prayers as we engage the front lines.   And pray that people will truly understand the depth of God’s love for them through our efforts.

Bridging Gaps, Bonding Men, Building Families,

Freddie

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Dad Drives 500 Miles to Visit Child

I had the pleasure of meeting a young father yesterday who recently read the book, The Dad I Wish I Had.  He said that growing up he never had an example of fatherhood in his home, which ended up with him making some poor decisions early in life.  He mentioned that growing up on the streets, and being involved in drugs dealing left an impression that he felt that men could not afford to show weakness by being emotional or even showing love or concern for loved ones.

He went on to say that after reading the book, he understood that he didn’t know the impact his absence had on his child.  Though his daughter lives over 500 miles away, he said that he “now understands that just sending child support isn’t enough!”  He jumped in the car and drove to make sure he was able to take his daughter to school on the first day of class.  He even said that he is now calling his daughter every night to pray with her, and tell her he loves her.

As we continued to talk, we reflected on what impact his action has had on his little girl!  Every night she is validated and comforted in knowing that daddy loves her.  If no one else reads the book, I believe this whole process is worth that little girls smile!

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10-Yr Old Faces Murder Charge in Dad’s Death

“Father’s provoke not your children to wrath…”

Ephesians 6:4

Discipline can be a difficult thing to balance from time to time.  Though we need to be firm and make sure we are setting the right expectations and habits for our children.  We also need to balance that with proper communication and temperance with our children.

Scripture tells father’s to not provoke your children to wrath.  Which means that if we are not careful, fathers can push children over the edge into anger and wrath.  This feeling can either be internalized, or acted on which we see in the shooting death of Byron Hilburn.  I dedicated an entire chapter addressing this subject in my book, The Dad I Wish I Had.  In which I share not only my feelings, but the feelings of hundreds of youth who were bound by the anger and frustration triggered by their fathers.

Tips to not provoke your children:

1. Communicate – make sure you clearly communicate your expectations to your child BEFORE you discipline them.  It is not fair to discipline a child for something they didn’t know they were supposed to do!
2. Rules that are age appropriate – make sure your rules are appropriate for the age of you child.  Your 2 year old should have a different set of expectations than your 16 year old.
3. Be consistent – don’t discipline your child for something they have done in the past but you never addressed it.  This usually happens when a child does something in public that embarrasses the parent, but the child is allowed to do or say the exact same thing at home but nothing was ever said to them.
4. Don’t Discipline in anger – if your child does something that upsets you, take a moment and calm down BEFORE you discipline your child.  Make sure they understand why they are getting disciplined and not just that you are mad.

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Health Club Gunman Targeted Women

As the nation mourns the events of the shooting of innocent women at the health club this week.  It is disappointing to think that someone could work around people, and seem to live a normal life and no one notice that he was hurting.  To see the video’s that he posted, and entries on his blog that went unnoticed, it appears as though he tried to reach out to someone, but no one responded.

From his video post as seen on www.abcnews.com, it appears that he was so wounded emotionally that he had to “learn” to connect with people emotionally again.  Usually that only happens when a person has been so devastated by an event, or a person that they choose to shut down emotionally so they won’t be exposed to that type of pain again.

I’ve seen this when talking to youth about how their fathers have disappointed them to the point that they have lost hope in ever having a relationship with their dad.  The results of this type of hurt tends to lead people down a path of poor decisions that not only hurt themselves, but also those around them.

All of us have lives that we are managing, and we all have issues and challenges that we have to work through.  But take a moment and think about those around you who may simply  need a pat on the back, a hug, or simply to be asked, “How are you doing?”

Too many times we only stop and think about others after something tragic has happened.  Let’s be proactive and engage the lives of the people around us who need our love and support.  God needs you to be His representation of love and mercy.

Find someone to support and be compassionate to today!  You never know how much they may need to hear your supportive voice!

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Vanessa Hudgens: Positive Role Model?

Twitter trending topics are soaring with the recent posts of inappropriate pictures of actress Vanessa Hudgens of the High School Musical trilogy.  She has apparently posted pictures of herself with her cell phone that is sending the wrong message to young women and young men everywhere!

After the millions of dollars that Disney spent on marketing the movies, and projecting a “Cinderalla” type image of the All American girl, it is sad to think that the success of the movies and influence she now has over teenagers is being used in the wrong way.

Dad’s, make sure you talk to your kids about this and find out if they think this is appropriate behavior for a young person.  It could be a great opportunity for you to talk to your kids about a relevant topic, and at the same time make sure they aren’t being influenced in the wrong way.

Take the time, and talk to your kids!  They are being influenced down pathways we don’t want them in!

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President Obama Addresses Fatherhood

Pursue Your Goal…But Don’t Forget Why?

I’ve heard it stated that:

“It’s not the ‘how-to’ but the ‘why’ that’s important. The ‘why’ gives you the power to do the ‘how-to’.”

Many times as men we get so focused on achieving goals and being successful, that we can forget why we set the goal in the first place. In Genesis we read that God made men to  have dominion.  We see that most men want to conquer and win in everything! I haven’t met a man yet that doesn’t want to win. In fact, this desire to succeed is so influential, that it influences the type of work a man pursues, which sports they play, and even what girl they ask out! Why? Because most men pursue things that they think they can be successful in.

As much as I enjoy sports, I will only play the sports that I think I have a chance in winning in. Even when it came to asking a girl out on a date, I would ask the girl that I thought I would get a YES from!

When you find something that you love and are successful in, don’t forget your “why!” Though the reason why you want to be successful at work is to provide a better life for your family, that goal must be balanced with making sure you don’t forsake your role and responsibility to your family in pursuit of that goal.

The end does not justify the means! The message we communicate to our family when we put make the pursuit of our goals a priority above what our family needs from us, is that the job or business is more important than them. That may not be the way you feel in your heart, but your family can’t tell what’s going on in your heart and they can’t read your mind. The only thing they know is what you say, or what you do!

I discuss more about what happens when father’s forget the “why” in my soon to be released book, “The Dad I Wish I Had”.  Read excerpts, and order your copy today at www.thedadiwishihad.com.